On the longer rides -- I assume you're riding a road bike -- is your weight on the ischial tuberosities or it is more forward, on the inferior pubic ramus?
There's a diagram of the pelvic bone in this thread that shows what I'm talking about:
http://forums.teamestrogen.com/showthread.php?t=25615
Also, have you measured your sit bones?
- Gray 2010 carbon WSD road bike, Rivet Independence saddle
- Red hardtail 26" aluminum mountain bike, Bontrager Evoke WSD saddle
- Royal blue 2018 aluminum gravel bike, Rivet Pearl saddle
Gone but not forgotten:
- Silver 2003 aluminum road bike
- Two awesome worn out Juliana saddles