I'm going to echo Emily. Four years ago next month, my younger brother committed suicide. This was my second experience with this (the first being in high school). I am in a VERY loving and supportive marriage. However, I, too, pushed my DH away during that time, and again last year when I lost my beloved grandmother. In high school, I pushed my mother away in favor of being with my BF's mother and father. Like Emily, I reached out to those around me who knew what the experience was like, who knew my brother and grandmother, who could relate to ME directly. I still grieve, even today, even one, four and twenty-six years later. But, I always return to the love and support of my DH.

I have also seen firsthand what these losses have done to my parents, and to the parents of my high school boyfriend. Both have stayed together, and in at least one case, despite some major difficulties in the first months/year following the loss. It is NOT an inevitable fact that your BF will leave you. Like others have said, I believe that he is reaching out to the widow because of their shared connection, trying to keep memories alive.

Five weeks is not a long time in the grieving process, either for you or your BF. Continue to take care of yourself. Continue to go to counselling. Continue to spend time with your friends, and continue to trust in what sounds like a good relationship with your BF.

Hugs to you.

SheFly