If possible always find opportunity to talk about things that you know both of you share a positive interest. And to compliment her when it's deserving. Seek her advice in areas where clearly she has expertise/knowledge.
I don't know your mother so hard to suggest much here.
Just to give an example, my mother can be tough to deal with. (And it will get tougher when my father dies. His cancer is getting worse..)
She and her daughters sew, so it is one area she clearly taught us, has expertise, we asked for her help (especially when we botched some sewing projects) and we appreciate whatever she does in this area. She also cooks healthy for herself and family. It is also an area that she deserves our appreciation because she passed on lifelong knowledge/skills to us that we all have and continue to practice ---naturally.
My mother genuinely likes Mother's Day appreciation for her: she needs appreciation as a mother for her hard work for raising 6 children. I can't dispute this one, for sure! So she likes the card, etc.
I know this doesn't solve her other issues but for the time being, at least she needs to clearly understand you are not rejecting her completely, only certain facets of her behaviour to you are no longer acceptable as an adult.



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