Do you have adult children? I need advice.

[Triskeliongirl]

I have adult children and would never do the things your mother is doing. In fact I always respected their bedroom/bathroom privacy, even when they were still children. The only reason I would have ever violated that (which I never had to do), was if I was concerned they were somehow in danger. And yes, if they visit and go out, I like to know when they will join us for meals so I know how much food to prepare, and how late they plan to be out so I don't worry, but this is the same common courtesy I would give my spouse or anyone I share my household with.

If you have no where else to go, start by installing locks on the inside of the bedroom and bathroom doors, just easy hook and eye locks will get the job done, and work as hard as possible to get a job, any job, as long as it gets you some financial independence. I don't know anything about your background, but if its appropriate, what about a program like teach for america which will give you some income and training. Perhaps you could also consult with a social worker to find out what is available to you as a young adult in your community, whether its educational services, mental health services, training, etc.