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[indysteel]

Good Indy. Can relate to the small-town cold treatment.

Even yesterday, I could feel some of the older women in the class eying me, but then again, others were really friendly. I'm a chatty, social person (with a few exceptions), so it's really hard to live someplace like this.

Boy, I really suck at BOSU though. I didn't struggle with balance, but the moves themselves were hard for me to follow. It's been years since I did step, and even then, I did it at home and not in a class setting. I looked like an idiot.

[Catrin]

Sounds good Indy, glad that some things are working out Yeah, the Bosu can be a trip - especially after even a short break! I do enjoy it though, it is something different.

[lph]

Hiya red! Hiya Indy - if I lived anywhere near you I'd hang out with you any day :-)

[indysteel]

Hiya red! Hiya Indy - if I lived anywhere near you I'd hang out with you any day :-)

Thank, lph. Right back at you!

I had to laugh because I was about as excited to meet a new female friend as I used to get meeting a new guy. But, really, friends are SO important to our well being, at least for most of us. Quality over quantity of course, but the need is definitely there. I've made a new friend relatively recently at work, too, and I was just as excited about her. I spend most of my work days kind of cooped up in a locked office and while I'm not totally alone in that office, it's still really challenging to make friends outside my immediate coworkers. I've been participating on some new projects here at work, too, so I'm just getting out more in general. It's been a good time for me at work.

I am very evenly divided in personality tests between introversion and extroversion, and I consistently have a very strong push/pull when it comes to social engagements. Too many, and I get anxious. Too few, and I get depressed. DH and I do well together because he's not a constant talker, so I can enjoy his company without being "on" all the time, but I had admittedly grown lonely in our town. All of these developments, taken together, are helping me right that imbalance.

[OakLeaf]

Hi Red! Yay for new hobbies.

Yay Indy!

Happy news is good.

[Crankin]

I can relate, Indy. When I moved back to MA, after years in AZ, I had forgotten how "to themselves" New Englanders are. I am very social, and while I do enjoy and need some quiet time, I need to have social plans every weekend. In AZ, my friends were my family and here, people tend to stay among their relatives or with people they have known for years. Now, I am a totally different person in terms of my interests, and the friends I made 20+ years ago really have nothing in common with me anymore. One, I still see a lot, and the other, I can barely tolerate. I became friends with another woman, who was a mutual friend through #1 above and she has become a cyclist. If we hadn't met our closest friends who we ride, ski, and vacation with, I don't know where we would be. And the funny thing is, is that we had seen them for a few years at the health club, and riding around the area. Then we signed up for a ride she was leading and I took the initiative to ask her to go on a ride with me, after that. I spent years doing volunteer work at my synagogue, and not one friendship developed from that. I felt totally used and stopped volunteering. My experience was totally different in AZ, where new people moved in all of the time, and it was normal to ask them over for dinner or coffee.
Hey, today was the first day in 2 weeks I have felt almost normal. Still coughing, though.

[indysteel]

Good Indy. Can relate to the small-town cold treatment.

Okay, so I've been to the class now about five times in the last two weeks. Most everyone has been nice, but there's this one woman who's just icky. I introduced myself the first night to her and her husband and, since then, she's basically looked right through me, avoiding my attempts to smile and say hi. She did, however, tell me on Monday that I'd taken her spot in the room (oops!) and then made this big production of having to set up her step in another spot.

Some people just never grow out of junior high.

[NbyNW]

Indy,

Glad you are starting to make some connections. It really can take a while in some places. I had a similar experience when we were living up north. No luck connecting with the locals (except for some awesome knitting groups up there), and I would meet others who were also not from there ... every time I thought I was making a friend, they would move away. Finally decided I should be one of the people who moved away.

Sorry about the mean girl. Some people have no idea how ridiculous they are.

[Crankin]

Just love those people who think they "own" their spaces at the gym. Thankfully, at 5:30 AM, the group is way more mellow. I went to a class at 10:30 AM this week, and the whole place was crowded and full of these types.

[indysteel]

I have a spot in my Tuesday yoga class that I almost always use. I get there early so it's easy to snag. I was running late last week and it was taken by the time I got there. But I didn't throw a fit about it. In fact, the teacher and I had a laugh over it. I think she was more thrown that I wasn't in my usual place than I was.

Still, lots of the class attendees have been really nice, and I'm enjoying the interaction. It helps put me in a good frame of mind before heading home for the night.

[redrhodie]

Has anyone heard from Mimi? I hope she's okay.

[Dogmama]

Just love those people who think they "own" their spaces at the gym. Thankfully, at 5:30 AM, the group is way more mellow. I went to a class at 10:30 AM this week, and the whole place was crowded and full of these types.

tee hee - I have people who camp out in front of the spinning room door waiting for me to get there so they can claim "their bike." Once I had a large grown man actually push through the crowd to get "his bike." Then he complained about the fan.

Some people's children!

[indysteel]

Has anyone heard from Mimi? I hope she's okay.

I've been wondering the same thing.

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

Mimi is ok, we communicated yesterday. She's working hard on re-inventing her life now that she's retired and on her own. I'll let her elaborate if she wants, but she's ok.

[indysteel]

Thanks for the update, Lisa. I hope she stops by for a visit sometimes soon. She's very much missed.