Work lunch hr.: getting married

[Crankin]

You really don't remember when you got married? I mean, we lived together, too, and I don't put that much stock in a piece of paper, but even if you don't have a big party, the day itself was special to me. I guess I am more romantic than I give myself credit for. People always accuse DH and I of being too "pragmatic," and have taken each new phase of our life in stride and tried not to let ourselves be changed too much.
I lost my wedding ring, too. It was a beautiful, one of a kind free flowing gold sculpty looking thing and one day it was just not there. I think it fell off at the gym. Then my engagement ring got stolen. I had a very plain gold band for awhile and on Mother's Day, 1992, DH and the kids presented me with a diamond infinity band, which I still have. I think the kids were more excited than me.

[zoom-zoom]

Ha, years ago I lost significant weight and for several years had to wear a thing under my wedding set to keep it fitting...drove me nuts. But the sort of puzzle design of it made resizing a difficult proposition. I would have been happy to sell the entire set in exchange for an exotic colored gemstone set in platinum or Ti. I was tired of the yellow/white gold combo. DH would not hear of selling "our" diamond, so I had it reset in a custom setting that I liked better...and it makes use of a tiny pair of diamond studs that had been my grandma's.

[goldfinch]

Crankin, I can come close but not exact. Neither of us can remember if it was December 30 or 31. But looking back the year was actually 1985. We did go to Thunderbay for Vietnamese food and an overnight. But no, it really wasn't especially romantic which in some ways is a shame.

[carlotta]

I love reading everyone's stories, and especially those of you who have had less-traditional ceremonies!

We just got engaged (together for four years, lived together for 3+, decided to get married a year or so ago, went ring shopping in Sept, so this wasn't a complete surprise, although I hadn't actually seen the ring) and I/we would really rather have a party, probably with a quick ceremony by a friend, but I have a feeling the parents may not be so happy with that decision. We're not going into debt for anything, and if they offer to pay for xxx, I've yet to decide if it'd be bad taste to suggest that they gift that to us as help for a downpayment on a house down the road-- it just seems kind of frivolous to spend so much on one day (for us, I've been to some amazing weddings and not judging anyone who goes that route, just not our style). Then there's the question of where it happens, we're from opposite sides of the country (Florida/NW, with assorted infirm-ish relatives in each place), most of our friends are in the SW, and we live in the NE.... fun!

So, yeah, I see the merits of the lunchtime post office routine

[Trek420]

we're from opposite sides of the country (Florida/NW, with assorted infirm-ish relatives in each place), most of our friends are in the SW, and we live in the NE.... fun!

Easy peasy. Wedding when, how and wherever you want. Then a series of bike tours with party after in other locations for get together with those who can't make the big day. Problem solved by bike

My parents were married in city hall by a JOP during the war years. No fancy clothes, party, gifts etc. After the wedding they both went back to work at their jobs at Kaiser shipyard building the Liberty ships. They were very happily married over 60 years till Dad passed. We had a big 60th anniversary party.

Good luck to all the happy TE couples.