I have a Spiderflex noseless saddle on my hybrid. My original cushy saddle rubbed on my girl parts, and the Spiderflex definitely solved that issue since your crotch is totally "free"... lol. I don't have control issues with the noseless saddle on the hybrid, but I've never tried it on my road bike. The saddle does take time to get used to and figure out the right position.

On my Ruby road bike, I have the Specialized Lithia Gel Comp saddle, which has a nice cutout. My sit bones hurt at first with it, but never my girl parts, and now it feels great.

There are cyclists who use Spiderflex saddles on road bikes, but I would say in your case it should be a last resort.

Spiderflex does offer a 30-day return policy. Here's the website: http://www.spiderflex.com

Good luck!