Racial remarks from family

[indysteel]

I am curious if any of you have experience dealing with racial remarks from family members. I don't even want to go to my family's Christmas dinner now.

Then don't. I'm not sure of the details, but perhaps it would be appropriate to tell the offending party or parties that unless and until they can behave, you'll spend your holidays elsewhere. I don't want to assume anything in terms of what happened, but you might ask J how he would prefer you approach it.

Of my family's various faults, overt racism isn't one of them, but they have plenty of other issues that have warranted me keeping my distance, from my siblings specifically. While I am sad about that, I don't regret the decision to estrange myself from them, as it's brought a lot of peace to my life that was otherwise lacking. I'm not suggesting that you have to go to that extreme, but life's too short to subject yourself and those you love to that particular flavor of abuse.

Hugs; I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.