Thank all of you wonderful women for your responses, they are very helpful. I do admit that I have a personality change when I have an outbreak!!! I just get so frustrated and I haven't been able to get sport specific info! I just found this forum and got a bit overly excited that I might actually get some support!!! I think my outbreaks are both stress and friction related, also if I worry that I am going to get one, like before a big race, of course I get one!!! I will try the advice of lubing, lubing, lubing. I have tried alternative tx's such as Christine Northrup's advice and Susan Weed, herbalist---but honestly they don't really help.. when they are bad I reach for Valtrex, which helps but I do not like to take it ( but I like having an outbreak even less!)
THanks again everyone and I really am a nice person!!