Dear So and So

[Owlie]

Thank you, Mimi.

Dear department (my adviser and one other person in particular):
Why can't you grow the (bleep) up and deal with your issues like adults instead of dragging students into it?

Me.

[jobob]

Thanks so much Mimi.

[alexis_the_tiny]

Dear life,

Can you explain why I keep feeling like I've fallen off the loop somewhere and don't know how to get back on? I feel isolated and blank. It's not that I don't know how to enjoy my own company like everyone keeps telling me to. But I feel utterly absolutely isolated and as a result, spending time by myself is no fun. Actually, nothing is fun. I know it's a tiny problem compared to everything else that happens in the world but this is not how I want to keep feeling for the rest of my life.

[indysteel]

((((Alexis)))). If you aren't already, have you ever considered talking to a therapist of some sort? I struggled with similar feelings for a long time, and it was definitely one of the bigger issues that my long-time therapist and I eventually tackled. Part of it is that I had to work long and hard at changing certain of my internal dialogues. I also had to work to find the types of people and activities that would fulfill me. For far too long, I beat myself up and felt estranged because most of my then-friends' social lives revolved around hitting the town and, to some extent, drinking. Those were things that made me feel exceedingly uncomfortable. It wasn't until I changed my social circles to include ygoa, cycling, and other physical pursuits that I found a social life more in keeping with my goals and interests. Anyway, I'd encourage you to talk to a professional if you're open to that.

[Biciclista]

Good advice, Indy.
yes, life is way way better than what you are seeing Alexis.

to whom it may concern. ahem? the sun? I Thought we had until FRIDAY...?

[Crankin]

Alexis, Indy gave you very good advice. I'll restate it, from the "professional" point of view.
Please see a therapist. Changing those internal dialogues is not an easy thing to do on your own.

[Catrin]

Alexis, Indy gave you very good advice. I'll restate it, from the "professional" point of view.
Please see a therapist. Changing those internal dialogues is not an easy thing to do on your own.

As someone who has had to do a LOT of work changing those internal dialogues (and will likely always have to work at it), I concur with Crankin and Indy. Get someone to help you with this.