I have the Selle Italia Max SLR Gel Flow saddle. This saddle has greatly helped my "girlie bits" problem. At first, the saddle was hard as rock on my sitbones area. Either the saddle softened up a little finally or I got used to it after 3months.

Unfortunately, as mentioned above, saddles fit different women differently. I got lucky with saddle #2. Some people from TE bought their 5th saddle before finding their perfect saddle.
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2012 Specialized Amira Elite, upgraded carbon handle bars, Jett saddle 143mm switched to 145mm 2012 Selle Italia Max SLR Gel Flow saddle

2011 Specialized Ariel Sport,suspension post,Serfas Rx Women's Microfiber saddle