Do you have any outlet stores near you? The way you describe yourself sounds exactly like me. Trim, small waist, bigger back end, thighs and calves. My most favorite pair of jeans is finally wearing out (badly!) so I absolutely must go jeans shopping this weekend. Sigh. The best luck I've had has been going to the Levi's and Wrangler's outlet stores where they have 20 styles of jeans. I can typically find at least one cut that fits well. You also might want to try Cruel Girl jeans. (They only look cowgirl-ish if you pair them with cowgirl boots!)