I totally need the chamois pad in my bike shorts on my road bike (my hybrid has the Serfas Rx seat along with a suspension post...so no padding was needed). My girly soft parts were also squished while wearing the chamois , but my new Selle Italia Max SLR Gel Flow saddle has a HUGE cutout which has greatly relieved this issue.

There are lots of TE member threads about different saddles for different women.
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2012 Specialized Amira Elite, upgraded carbon handle bars, Jett saddle 143mm switched to 145mm 2012 Selle Italia Max SLR Gel Flow saddle

2011 Specialized Ariel Sport,suspension post,Serfas Rx Women's Microfiber saddle