Oak, so sorry to read this, hopefully the new doc can help you out. It is a pity that so many see surgery as the first optionHave they tried injections/would you consider that? It did a world of good for me - it apparently brought the inflammation down enough that the more troublesome symptoms of nerve impingement (patterns of numbness from my jaw to my fingers) went away and haven't returned. My problem was pretty much limited to my cervical spine however, while it has multiple problems it certainly sounds less complex than your situation.
He was a "Physiatrist", if I recall properly. I know injections don't work in all situations/for all people but I did want to mention it.