Quote Originally Posted by Medianox View Post
As for getting him involved in cycling himself-we have discussed that and after the most recent event he agrees that it would be fun to do it together.
I really encourage you guys to talk more about this. This is where DH and I were about 3 years ago. He's a JDRF coach and that was putting a strain on our relationship. He'd be gone at least every-other Sunday for the better part of a day, all Summer long (they'd work up to 70-80 mile rides...rides that were generally an hour away, plus an hour of socializing post-ride), in addition to him being gone several nights/week after work on his bike.

I have to admit, things got pretty ugly right before he left for one of the JDRF events. I called him on the time he spent away (leaving me alone with an 8 year old and having to schedule my workouts around his, minimal time for us to do anything as a family on weekends, etc.). He got VERY defensive. After we both cooled-off he admitted that he'd been a turd.

Not long after that we purchased a bike for me and it's really helped in a "if you can't beat 'em, join 'em" fashion. We also have the tandem that DS rides on the back of, so the 3 of us can go on family rides (childcare was an issue before that, since it was impossible for DH and I to ride together without finding a babysitter). And now DS is totally gung-ho about riding, too. I am now a JDRF team member, so DH is no longer abandoning us for long training rides--DS and I are "along for the ride," too.

I still feel some bike-related tensions from time-to-time. DH turned 40 this year and is on a sort of midlife-crisis bucketlist race spree (in some ways I think it would have been easier if he'd gone out and bought a sports car, heh). He has already made noises about doing the same, next year, but I may have to sit him down and remind him that *I* turn 40 next year and would like to have my shot at doing something similar. I have sacrificed a lot of races this year because of the time constraints that his training have put on us. For instance, I am not doing any duathlons this year...last year I did 3. It's just too difficult for me to get in the workouts I need when he's been training for things like a 100 mile mountain bike race. We can't both put in training like that with a kiddo still at home (and no local grandparents or other free/cheap childcare options).