I am struggling with my saddle as well. For the longest time Terri Butterfly was just right for me but then it sank. What I mean is it developed a dip in the middle and this is where I want it perfectly flat. Everybody's physiology is different and you have to find one that works just for you, doesn't matter whether it is men's or women's design. My recommendation, find a professional fitter who will have a variety of saddles. First, make sure that you sit on the bike correctly and your personal geometry is right. And then try a saddle after saddle. Yes, it will cost your a little bit, but it would save you some pain of purchasing wrong saddles and pain where you don't want it to have.