Don't own your sister's problems. She is a big time USER. Let me guess, only calls family when she needs something?

Take care of your own immediate family.

What would she do if the situation was reversed? Probably wouldn't be there to support her.

Oh, and when you can't afford to take care of your own family's needs (yes, vacations and of course, bikes, are needs), then you can't afford to go either. It's ok for everyone else to decline. It's ok for you to decline.

Oh, and 8 hours away, count your blessing.

Signed,

Totally Estranged from Siblings (had to to get away from unhealthy relationships)