I know it frustrating and I'm sorry you had such a bad experience in 3 out of the 4 bike shops you visited. At the end of the day, the shop you choose is just as important if not more important than the actual bike! Therefore, if you feel comfortable with LBS #1, buy a bike that fits from them.

There are a bunch of bike stores in the Sacramento area, I'm sure people here can recommend other places to try if you want to see what other options are out there. Good Luck!