"Chicked"

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I didn't realize it was a road term too, but makes sense. I don't do group road rides anymore so I'm kind of out of the loop.

I didn't really realize it was used in the cycling world until recently. Chicking is definitely a concept in running. If a woman passes a guy while wearing a skirt it's sometimes viewed as an even bigger deal.

I'm sorry that your DH is struggling with things. I have to say as a spouse that is sort of in his position that I will be REALLY thankful when Lumberjack is over--not because I really envy my DH's mountain bike abilities (I can't expect to keep up with him--he's been riding for years and is just naturally a really athletic guy--I don't have any natural athletic ability and have crap-fer-lungs on top of it), but because it takes a lot of his time and when he is home is is always super tired. I mean, what healthy 40 year old guy says no to a nekkid wife in his bed?! I really hope he doesn't decide to do it again next year. Between his week+ trip out west for mountain biking and general Lumberjack training I sort of feel like my husband has been hijacked.

We had plans of redoing our upstairs and having it done by Summer. I got one "attic" room done by myself and as much as I could get moved into it. Now the room we want to renovate for DS is still full of DH's boxes of books and crap and I can't get any more done until he tackles that--but he has no time or energy for it. I'm desperate to get this house sellable (as is he, most of the time), but it's taking a backseat to his fun, which really kinda p!sses me off. His little midlife crisis (he turned 40 in Feb.) would have been easier if he'd just gone out and bought a sports car.

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I think I am a bit sensitive to this because of a more personal reason. DH, when we first met, really wanted a partner he could ride MTB with. And then I finally got a little stronger and lost a bit of weight and I could suddenly hold my own. I don't want to bash DH, because he is a great guy and partner in almost every aspect. However, my mtbing, I can tell, bothers him! I can see he struggles with this. He knows he's being a jerk about it, but can't stop himself. He's just not supportive of it anymore and he's resentful

It's really taking a toll on me. This season has been tough. I'm not all that motivated to go out and train because I know it bothers DH when I do well. I've also put on a bit of weight.

I keep telling myself this is DH's issue. I shouldn't let him hold me back. but it's tough! I don't want to create a wedge between us.

Hope you find a solution with hubby, limewave. But I hope you also have a female, good mtbiking friend to chat about cycling in general. Indy's suggestion "Dance of Anger" is a good book for all sorts of relationships.