L-Bell, did you read the most excellent threads about saddle fitting that Muirenn linked to earlier in this thread? A "women's saddle" means basically nothing. Any more than "women's pants." It has to fit YOU. There are brands and sizes of jeans that will fit you and brands and sizes that won't, and a saddle is no different.

Lubes are helpful for chafing, though they're not a substitute for a well-fitting saddle, and in general, the better your saddle fits, the less lube you'll need. They won't do anything for pressure.