I had the same problem. I got involved, he got involved, and then it became a competition. I like to ride. I've never been a competer.

Check on the internet site: "Meetup.com." There are a lot of groups that ride that post rides there. My area has three. I belong to all three and can usually find a ride to go on. Some are no drop rides which is good cause I am not really too fast.

There also might be a lcal bike club you could join. In Minneapolis, there is the TCBC Bike. It sponsors rides at any level and has lots of fun events.