Thanks everyone. Yeah, this is what I was looking for. Funny thing is my husband always gives some suggestion that I don't even seem to hear, and later someone else says exactly the same thing and I excitedly tell him about it and he says "Didn't I say that?" and then I do remember he did say it. So he already said everything you said, but I had no idea until he reminded me he had. Poor guy! I try to listen...what?

My boss is actually pretty cool. This stress reaction took me by surprise because it seems like an overreaction to the situation.

I am a lot happier in this job than in the postdoc nightmares previously. I can't say I love the job, and I'm more and more convinced I don't want to be in biomed research, and this might just be what pushes me out. Maybe after my daughter graduates high school, we'll try it with him getting a job and me doing whatever it takes to switch careers (hopefully NOT yet another degree.)