I'm sorry to hear of your ailing mother and difficulties, Bike Chick. You're trying hard right now.

You know, I don't think my mother (78) would be that much different. She doesn't exercise, is abit overweight but has tried over the past few decades to cook healthier. So this most definitely we give her credit. However she does understand our need to eat healthy, be fit, etc. Then compounded with a dying husband (my father has cancer) and daughter that she lost suddenly, plus not knowing enough English to communicate with us (or us not knowing enough Chinese).

Your mom probably needs most to have a good friendly ear to hear her and 1-2 friends her age to talk often, share at her age. Does she have a hobby, activity that she can still enjoy/is good at?