Indy - I'm glad that you may be getting to the bottom of this! I will agree that having the right doctor is CRITICAL. And it's not just for their knowledge, but for how they interact with you. Everyone is individual and not all personalities match.

I had a doc in FL (OB-GYN) who I liked a lot. He also was my mom's doc. In fact, I tutored his daughter in algebra. We had a good relationship. The problem was that when I developed uterine fibroids causing massive bleeding spells, he had no answer. He tried to control it with hormones - including depo provera which is exactly the LAST thing he should have attempted. In fact, at one point, he suggested that I'd be 'cured' if I just got pregnant....and he suggested that both to myself and to my mother (which was a huge red flag for me!). He was guessing and it pissed me off.

When I moved to NC and had another massive (and incredibly embarrassing) bleeding spell, I got an appointment with the first doc available at the clinic a friend recommended. He immediately asked if I'd had a recent ultrasound. When I said no, he was shocked. One look and sure enough - obvious fibroid. Two surgeries later and the problem was completely gone.

My mom still sees that first doc and he appears to have zero clue how it should have been him who discovered such an easy diagnoses.

And I also agree with whomever said that younger docs seem more receptive to my suggestions/questions. In fact, I make a point of researching my doctor's age or degree dates before making appointments because I find it makes such a huge difference.