Sheesh, sorry to hear about your foot, GLC. Now about your H (I noticed you didn't write "D" in front...). What's this about him being all pissy? This is when marriages get tested--when things get hard. YOU should not have to figure out a way to not make him mad--you are dealing with enough as it is. Have you talked to him about why he's feeling put out? Maybe just giving him the chance to have someone listen to him would help. I like your idea of your dad giving him a call just to "see how things are going."

If he truly cannot handle your being on crutches and picking up the slack, then there are ways to deal with that. Hiring someone to help with the animals or the house is one. You say there's no one because you live in the country, but I would bet there is someone who would be grateful to earn some extra money. If your H cannot cook (or refuses to), you might have to bring someone in to cook for you for a while. I have a friend who does not like to cook at all, and she hires someone to cook for her once a week and put all the meals in ready-made in the freezer for her. It's very convenient (she has a super high-powered job and works all the time) and she gets healthy homemade meals. I bet a caterer would do that, and it would be delicious and very convenient.

It sounds to me like you are already doing a whole lot in the house. Maybe he's resentful because you are being so independent and not letting him take care of you. If that's the case, lighten up and let him do things for you. It's okay. Of course, that might not be the case at all.

Once you have surgery, you will be out of it for at least a few days. Have you talked to him about that? I mean, really out of it, and you NEED to rest, you can't be doing laundry and stuff.

Best wishes for a speedy recovery and figuring out what's going on with the H.