I'm leaning more towards trying to repatriate the stuff rather than donating them. I know he could have contacted me to get the stuff, but what if he's keeping quiet to respect my wishes?

He does have a friend here but I've not heard a reply to my text. He travels a lot, and even though I've been to his house once, I doubt I'll be able to find it again as he's torn it down and is building a new one. My guess is from the lack of a reply he's out of town.

I've also thought about an intermediary - a friend who lives near him. It still felt like I was opening a channel to communicate as well as feeling cowardly asking a 3rd party.

I know those of you who are in the camp to donate will be annoyed by my indecision - especially considering I'm still harbouring a lot of anger and resentment towards him, but I'm not out to be a heartless b*tch either.