Teachers/Parents Advice

[Crankin]

That's exactly what I said. I just tried to say it less bluntly . I am always afraid of offending someone here!
Around here, after school teachers have to have a BA. However, in AZ this was not true. My cousin, who has a BA in early childhood ed, has been an "after school" kindergarten teacher (she gets the kids when their 1/2 or 2/3 day is over) for 20 years. She's really good, but she has a reading disability which has made her hesitant about taking on the rigors of a regular position.
So yes, the teacher's supervisor might be someone from Community Education, or whoever runs the after school program, or it could be the principal.

[limewave]

Everyone's replies are so helpful! I didn't want to rush in and be the angry, overreacting parent, but I also didn't want to just let it go. All of you are confirming what I have been feeling but just wasn't sure about the best way to go about it.

I think what I will do . . .
I have a good relationship with the supervisor (I know she has a BA in education--not sure about the other staff). Because of our relationship, I feel like I can casually approach her with this. She also knows DD very well, they have a special bond. She will have a good feel for the situation. I like starting with "There may have been a misunderstanding, DD came home and told me such and such . . . perhaps she misunderstood . . ."

This will give me an opportunity to find out what has been going on. There are many nights that DD tells me these same girls tease her. I know teasing is a part of being a kid and growing up, but it sucks when its your kid There are nights where she cries and says she never wants to go to school again.

[Melalvai]

This will give me an opportunity to find out what has been going on. There are many nights that DD tells me these same girls tease her. I know teasing is a part of being a kid and growing up, but it sucks when its your kid There are nights where she cries and says she never wants to go to school again.

Oh, that sounds like a much bigger problem than this one incident. Honestly I'd seriously consider taking her out of the daycare immediately and finding another one. I know that's a huge undertaking and perhaps impossible but my point is take this seriously. You don't want your daughter to be unhappy. This doesn't have to be a part of growing up unless we let it.

I regret that I wasn't quicker to get my daughter out of situations like this. When she was 16 months and started at a new daycare, it took us two months to decide that no, she wasn't going to adjust to this one. In retrospect I could have made that decision at 4 weeks. When she was 8 and we pulled her out of 3rd grade and homeschooled her the last 2 months of the year. I wish we'd done that much earlier in the year, at the end of the first semester. And I wish my parents had taken me more seriously when I was having problems with a babysitter, and later in high school when I had actually come up with a workable solution. (In fact years later they admitted "We probably should have let you switch schools.")