Teachers/Parents Advice

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I can't imagine that talking to a teacher who tells a little girl to do something that is clearly wrong will help.

Horrible.

Ugh, that's sort of the reaction I have, as well. I think taking to the teacher, as Malkin suggested, is a good idea. It may not help, but I don't think it would hurt.

I think I'm more irritated by the teacher's reaction than I am by the bullying kids. The kids still have time to learn to not be jerks!

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I think I'm more irritated by the teacher's reaction than I am by the bullying kids. The kids still have time to learn to not be jerks!

I don't blame the girls. They have really messed up home/family lives. I know what I witnessed first hand at soccer and can't even imagine how screwed up things are behind closed doors Which is another reason I'm extra upset about the teachers reaction. These girls need to be shown kindness especially in the face of adversity.

[OakLeaf]

Not to stir the pot, but are you 100% sure that your daughter is telling you the truth?

[limewave]

Not to stir the pot, but are you 100% sure that your daughter is telling you the truth?

I had thought about that. Which is why I want to be careful about approaching the teacher. I don't want to be accusatory. Although I have a feeling what I was told was an accurate portrayal of the events . . . at least from DD's perspective.

V: I come from a long line of school teachers. I've heard all sorts of stories. I usually give them the benefit of the doubt.

[Crankin]

Not to upset anyone, but after school program teachers, even in a public school, are not necessarily certified teachers. It doesn't mean that this behavior is excusable, but just that you are not dealing with the same thing as a classroom teacher.
I would talk to the teacher first, saying, "This is what my daughter told me, and I just want to check this out..." If you are not satisfied with the resolution, talk to her supervisor.

[beccaB]

I would definitely talk to the teacher. I work with kids and I know how they can embellish, although I'm not saying I don't take them at their word, I just would want to hear it from another perspective.

[Tri Girl]

I would talk to the adult. The teacher may have said that (wrongly, of course) out of frustration if she'd been dealing with those little girls and was having one of those "moments". I know sometimes when I've dealt with one or two "trying" children and I'm at my wits end, I have to watch my words carefully so I don't let on I'm frustrated to anyone.

Sometimes things get turned around in their little minds through no fault of their own, tho. Like the K kiddo who went home and told his dad that Mrs. B said he couldn't take a book home until he brought all his books from home to school. I really told him he couldn't take a book home until he brought back his book from home. He had it kinda right. The dad was very accusatory to me at first (I'm not sure why he really thought I would tell the child I wanted all his books from home), but when I told him what I really said, he just laughed.

I used to always tell my homeroom parents when I taught 5th grade: "I'll believe about half of what your child says about YOU, if you'll believe about half of what they say about ME."

Hope you get it resolved.