What is "but I have PCOS/IR" that you mentioned later in this thread?
Anyway, how confusing this exchange way of eating. I am not diabetic but I did have a close blood sugar test reading to diabetes 2.
Though not life threatening, I eliminated white rice from my diet in last 2-3 yrs. (I do have sushi and sashimi 2-3 times per yr.) and cut back eating bread by 80%. I don't get high glycemic/sugar crashes as much. It's just that I know now if I eat these foods I don't feel well...ie. exhausted.
Now drinking white wine has more of a negative effect on me compared to a decade ago.
There are certain natural fruits that are much higher in natural sugars for you to just be moderate in intake: grape, pineapple, watermelon.
But then I don't know what your medical issues are. So I'm just relaying my experience (and I have to combine diet with daily exercise) and a sister of mine who lost 50 lbs. by reducing high glycemic food intake. (there are books on high glycemic foods). I don't count calories, I stick to whole foods --real produce. The most processed foods (some aren't truly that processed at all), I have in the cupboard is...soy sauce, cornflakes, yogurt, chili paste, chili soy bean paste, tinned salmon and tuna.

I guess some light pasta counts too. Hummus is great...for me in smaller amounts before I go overboard.