Self-inflicted guilt

[Melalvai]

There have been a lot of really great suggestions, and I have one more. Have a very clear idea of what your goals are, long term and short term, and how everything you are doing contributes towards those goals, and, here's the part that matters for your guilt feelings, how the things you have chosen not to do do not contribute to your goals.

I want to make the disclaimer that some of the suggestions posted before this come from people who are trained & knowledgeable about this topic, unlike me. And maybe you've done plenty of goal setting and this isn't the issue at all. (I probably feel the need to make this disclaimer because of my own insecurity issues, heh heh)

[GLC1968]

Even more great advice everyone, thank you.

Crankin - you are exactly right. That was part of my problem with physical self-image. Telling myself good things over and over meant nothing to me because I felt like a liar. I had to get to the root of WHY I felt the way I did before I start making positive progress.

Apparently, I need to do the same thing when it comes to career and life.

You know, one of the things both my husband and I had to think about when we made this decision was that not having goats and the farm makes us less interesting. Were we ready for that? It sounds vain and stupid, but really, a very big part of our identities since moving here has been tied up in this place. It's a huge change to let that go.

Melalvai - interesting that you should mention goal setting. One of the big pieces of this decision was our long term future. We now know EXACTLY what we want to do when we retire. And now that we have a concrete idea, we can make a real plan. I find that incredibly motivating, really. I just need to remind myself of that every once in awhile. Financially, our new situation (once we get there) will be much more conducive to saving for our future vision, so it'll be a win-win for us. We just need to get over the rocky terrain that will get us there.

And thanks for all the compliments you guys. You are making me blush!

[shootingstar]

You know, one of the things both my husband and I had to think about when we made this decision was that not having goats and the farm makes us less interesting. Were we ready for that? It sounds vain and stupid, but really, a very big part of our identities since moving here has been tied up in this place. It's a huge change to let that go.

Wonder if some of us feel that way about cycling..and when we will give it up (hopefully way into the future), would we feel the same way?

Look forward to new adventures. Just around the corner.