Dear So and So

[Crankin]

Veronica, here you could file a neglect petition with DCF if a child was not being given his/her medication.
Does the mother have a reason for not medicating him? Often times, parents, especially those with cultural, educational, or other handicaps really don't understand anything about ADHD. Of course she is probably mourning the loss of her "ideal" child, but if she understands that ADHD is an illness and not a deficit, she might be able to see how medication can help him achieve his potential.
I have seen this issue from the point of view of a parent, teacher, and therapist. It always surprised me when parents refused to consider medication. It doesn't mean you are a failure or your kid is a loser. And, you still need to use all of the other organizational strategies to help the child. Both of my kids were similar to this kid. Brilliant, but with the short term memory of a gnat and one was extremely disorganized, the other impulsive. One took medication for 7 years, and then through sheer will and determination made it through HS as an honors student with no meds. The other one tried meds in HS and they made him agitated, so he stopped. He would have achieved much more at that point in his life, if he hadn't had the side effects; now there are a lot more choices.
I don't think anyone, parent or not, can really know how it feels to have ADHD. It's really limiting, causes a lot of marital distress and firings from work. About 30% of the incarcerated population in the US has it. People think it's over diagnosed, but it's more that years ago, not everyone made it to high school, and there were more options/careers for people who didn't succeed. academically. Life was different.
Don't be so quick to judge. Of course a child's treatment is always in the hands of the parent, but sometimes, a parent really does not have the right information to make the right decision.

[Biciclista]

I am really glad that my sons got through school before this era, when we could be threatened for bad parenting for not wanting to medicate them. My DH has ADHD so he DOES know what it's like to have it. However, both of our sons got through school without medication (only one was diagnosed before high school), both got their bachelor's and one is currently working on his PhD. I don't think drugs are the only answer. I'm not even implying that what we did was the best thing. but just because we don't want to medicate our kids doesn't mean we're bad parents.

[Veronica]

I think a big difference is the support you and your DH could give your sons. This mom really can't give her son support academically.

He is actually doing okay as a student. His math grades aren't as good as they use to be because math has gotten harder, more steps, more to remember... and he wants to read during the math lesson.

It's his distracting others that is my biggest concern and blurting out inappropriate comments. He's wonderfully, caring boy and a really neat kid - great sense of humor.

Anyway... thanks for listening. I appreciate the persepctive of parents who have been there.

Veronica

[jessmarimba]

Dear coworker:

I really wish you wouldn't wear headphones when you eat lunch, because the sounds you're making are making me want to vomit. STOP BEING SO GROSS!! CHEW WITH YOUR MOUTH CLOSED!!

Sincerely,
not your mother

[Owlie]

Dear self: Just write another page and a half. He doesn't actually care and just wants to see that you've written something. (I realize the topic you're supposed to be writing about is BS, but surely you can come up with some BS about the BS?)

Dear apartment:
Why have you swallowed my stamps? I need those to pay my electricity bill.

Dear car:
I love you and you're ever so helpful, what with my late classes and all that, but you are getting to be expensive. First the catalytic converter, then another car insurance payment, then the fact that gas is absurdly expensive here because it's the middle of nowhere (even though it's next to a mid-size city). Maybe I should buy another bike and let you have three days a week off...

[Bethany1]

Dear Self,

It really is okay to sell your bike.. You know it needs a better home and to have someone love it more than you can.

[katluvr]

Dear Self,
What is wrong with you? Where is your motivation? A 1/2 marathon in less than 4 weeks and you have fallen off your TP. You have gained 7 pounds since Pike Peak. You don't exercise before work or after work! You are pushing 50 (ok only 48 now) and must find a way to keep moving. Why AM I still on the couch on my day off w/ laptop on my lap--go visit the TM in the garage that you just bought!

K

[Selkie]

Dear coworker:

I really wish you wouldn't wear headphones when you eat lunch, because the sounds you're making are making me want to vomit. STOP BEING SO GROSS!! CHEW WITH YOUR MOUTH CLOSED!!

Sincerely,
not your mother

LOL. Unfortunately, it probably wouldn't matter if the audible chewer/slurper took off the headphones! I can't abide by rude eaters, either. They always seem to choose crunchy foods, don't they?

[OakLeaf]

Be open to the possibility that the person just has very bad teeth and a dental phobia ... I've just had to get used to my DH's mouth noises ...

[indysteel]

Dear City of Indianapolis: I cannot wait until the Superbowl is yesterday's news. Believe it it not, there are people out there who don't give a rat's you know what about this ridiculously bloated extravaganza and who just want it to be over.

[jessmarimba]

Be open to the possibility that the person just has very bad teeth and a dental phobia ... I've just had to get used to my DH's mouth noises ...

That wouldn't excuse the burping, etc. He's just gross. One of the problems with a small office is that the guys think they don't need manners anymore, since I'm the only person they offend.