Dear So and So

[emily_in_nc]

Dear Old Blender:

You are retired and fired.

Love,

The Shiny New Vitamix

Dear TE:

Got tricks/tips/recipes?

Oh, Vitamixes are awesome. Really loud, but awesome. We made some of the hot soup recipes in the recipe book that came with the unit, but our most common use was to make a healthy blender drink of carrot, celery, apple, flax, a little OJ (or other juice), and ice. In later years we started adding some frozen organic spinach to it. Drank it almost every single day. I miss that machine!

Enjoy your new toy!

[Crankin]

Lph, I think one of my issues is that these people are not really passionate about anything, especially the one who rolled her eyes. She is the most level headed and smartest person I know, who is not one of my friends connected to athletics, but her life is mostly work, family, and eating out. She has no hobbies or interests. Both her and the other person I've mentioned (friend of the Facebook posts) are friends for 20+ years, made when i first move back here and my kids were small. Our common bond was we met at the synagogue, and now, although we all still belong there, and support the organization, we are not active volunteers.
I think when she rolled her eyes, it kind of was surprising, but it didn't reach the level of my reaction to the other person! I know my reaction to that person is out of proportion, and it stems from the fact that she needs serious mental health help, and as a professional, I can see it, but as a friend, I can't say anything; it would totally end the friendship. This person does have interests, but things that I totally have no interest in. I listen and even ask questions about her interests, but there's no common bond anymore.
Does this make sense?
Maybe it's time to find some new friends, but that's not so easy at this stage of life.

[Biciclista]

Maybe it's time to find some new friends, but that's not so easy at this stage of life.

Let my grandmother be an inspiration to you. She was long lived; she lived to be 92. Time after time, she outlived her friends; but she always made new ones... until she lost her voice at the age of 90.

She taught me a lot, that old gal did.

[Crankin]

Well, I've never had trouble making friends, I'm pretty social, but it seems like a lot of people my age are still bound up in their (almost grown/grown) kids' lives, spend all of their time with family/relatives, or just aren't into letting new people into their lives. Some of this is New England, heck, I'm a native, and I know we are not a particularly friendly bunch! Living in the west cured me of that, but even though I never, never regret the choice I made to come back here, we have never developed the group of friends like the ones I had in Tempe. I know lots and lots of people and have had various friends here over the years, but most have faded away, as the interests that brought us together were no longer relevant for me.
On Wednesday, I am going to the last ride/event of the group I have ridden with for 6-7 years. They are a unique group, mostly older than me. I haven't been to one ride this season. When I had the time, I didn't want to drive far to a ride, and I chose to ride with Hirakukibou, who is a friend I made through TE! And sometimes work interferes, although I sought a less than full the job on purpose, so I could continue riding with this group. I keep Wednesdays clear, except for one client in the late afternoon. But really, I haven't developed a friendship with anyone in this group. They are nice, but most have known each other for many years. Even in the past, I didn't ride with them every week.
Another thing is, I stopped being socially friendly with people from work, quite awhile ago. That used to be a big part of my life at one point. And now, my colleagues are mostly closer to the age of my kids.