Good for you smiling cat! You should feel good, those were nice things.

An Aunt of mine died at the age of 89 penniless and alone in Fl. She was not a nice woman and was estranged from the whole family. Her one remaining son, who she physically abused when he was a child, moved to CA to get away from her.
There was this one woman in FL, Harriet (who is 82), who took pity on her and looked out for her, driving her to the Dr & store, and lending her a little money now and then. Harriet is the one who called the family when she died.

My Aunt was cremated, but none of the family wanted to pay the postage to have her ashes sent to them. By coincidence, my husband and I were visiting his Dad in FL a week after she died. I had not seen my Aunt in 27 years, and had no fond memories of her, but I did feel bad that she was sitting unclaimed on a shelf in a crematorium. She was a miserable woman, but ending up like that is just sad. So, when we went down to FL we drove over and picked up her ashes to bring them back with us to New England.

My Mom, Dad & I took them to the grave of her parents, my grandparents, and dug a little hole and put her in (which is quite against the rules). We figured that if anybody would be willing to spend eternity with her, it would be her parents. We hope so anyway!

Post script: In her will she quite firmly said that her son was to get nothing. Not than there was anything. The only things she had left that were of any value at all were 3 gold rings and a small gold necklace. Harriet told me to take them for my trouble of collecting the ashes and all, but I thought if anybody should get them, it should be her son. He has been unemployed & in danger of loosing his house and he could use any extra money. So I mailed him the rings & necklace. It won’t make up for a miserable childhood but I’m sure it pissed off my aunt.


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