what would you do?

[Jen12]

I guess I can sell, and if at another time he comes to me asking for them, I'll say I sold them, and if he says anything about the bindings being his, then I'll just wire him the money. As I said, he owes me at least $1000 over the years so I don't think he'll make a stink of this. I know he'll be upset that I did it without telling him, but I think the days of owing him anything is long gone!!

I'm not sure of the history of your situation with him, but it sounds like you want it to be over and he's hanging on. If this is the case, cut off contact with him. Don't respond to his texts, emails, calls, whatever. That way, you don't have to worry about wiring him money or explaining your position or anything. Clean breaks are hard to do, but in the long run, you may be much happier to have it all behind you.

[ny biker]

I know he'll be upset that I did it without telling him, but I think the days of owing him anything is long gone!!

There is also very little reason to be considerate of his feelings. He is not considerate of your feelings. If he was, he would leave you alone.

[redrhodie]

Is there a reason that you need to do this right now, because if it could wait, I'd let things to cool down more, like when he stops texting you weekly (or at least until after the holidays). At this point, he's still emotional, and liable to react badly if he finds out you sold "his" stuff (and I know it's not really his, I'm just playing devil's advocate).

[Brandi]

Do not open that door! And sell It! Get some of your money back if you can. And then that is that! Good luck.

[Irulan]

Is there a reason that you need to do this right now, because if it could wait, I'd let things to cool down more, like when he stops texting you weekly (or at least until after the holidays). At this point, he's still emotional, and liable to react badly if he finds out you sold "his" stuff (and I know it's not really his, I'm just playing devil's advocate).

What is is likely to do, hop on a plane?

[redrhodie]

Why not give him a little time to heal. The holidays are hard enough.

[ny biker]

I hate to say this, but he could hurt himself. Why not give him a little time to heal. The holidays are hard enough.

He's a manipulator. That's exactly what he wants her to think.

I really think the only possible issue is with the bindings. Does he know the friend who has them? If so, he can contact that person if/when he wants them. Or that person can contact him if they don't want to store them any more.

Anything else that Badger paid for is hers to dispose of. She does not need to tell him anything about them.

[badger]

the only "rush" to do this now is it's one of the better times to sell snowboard gear. The mountains are opening, and people might be looking for Christmas presents. Otherwise there's really no rush.

I don't think the holidays are any tougher than other times, it's not like he's ever had me spend it with him so we don't have any "holiday memories" for him to get over.

[Trek420]

the only "rush" to do this now is it's one of the better times to sell snowboard gear. The mountains are opening, and people might be looking for Christmas presents. Otherwise there's really no rush.

Hey, we have skiers on TE. I bet someone here would buy it

[jyyanks]

I agree with everyone else. Do not initiate contact as it will only open up old wounds. I would have your friend sell the snowboard and fishing poles. Then I would mail the bindings to his friend with a note asking him to kindly return to Mr X for you and that's it. I know this is tough but stay strong!

[Brandi]

Hey what kind of fishing poles? My hubby is a big time ocean kayak fisherman and is always looking for gear.

[sookiesue]

Give your friend in Washington a commission for selling the board for you, take the cash, and buy yourself something awesome for Christmas! If he has never made any effort to pay you back for it, it is yours, not his. Good luck.

[badger]

Hey what kind of fishing poles? My hubby is a big time ocean kayak fisherman and is always looking for gear.

It's for fly fishing. I think the one I got that's brand new and never used is a Redington 9' or something rather. If you're seriously interested, I can look at it and tell you for sure what size/weight.