Quote Originally Posted by indysteel View Post
I'm sorry, Pax. In reading your post, I have a sickening feeling that I may end up in a similar position, caring for a parent or parents who weren't particularly caring to me. Add in my husband's parents--who I don't particularly care for--and I'm pretty nervous about what lies head for us.

It's good of you to help her, but please don't beat yourself up for not being particularly happy about it. Your reasons and feelings are perfectly valid. If there are any boundaries you can draw so that's a bit more bearable, do it. For instance, do you have to take her on vacation? And can you talk to your brother about doing more for her?
Thanks for the support Indy, this has been tough.

As far as "having" to take her on vacation, I do it because I feel so bad for her. She and dad were married for 51 years, she is so lost and lonely it just breaks my heart. So we set aside one vacation a year to take her someplace.

As for my brother... he is useless. He will only help grudgingly and lets mom know he'd rather be elsewhere. In short, he's a jerk and always has been. One redeeming things about all of this is when mom is gone, I won't have to interact with him anymore.