what would you do?

[Biciclista]

sell it. He can't bother to pay for it. If he really wanted it he would have paid for it a long time ago. if he ever gets back to this side of the world, he'll want a new one anyway. Sell it and let it go.

[Irulan]

sell it. He can't bother to pay for it. If he really wanted it he would have paid for it a long time ago. if he ever gets back to this side of the world, he'll want a new one anyway. Sell it and let it go.

I'm with this. I mean, seriously, he's thousands of miles away and hasn't made an effort for it? Plus, if you paid for it technically it's yours not his, unless you have a contract stating otherwise. I see that you are letting yourself be manipulated still over this stuff.

[ny biker]

i'm with this. I mean, seriously, he's thousands of miles away and hasn't made an effort for it? Plus, if you paid for it technically it's yours not his, unless you have a contract stating otherwise. I see that you are letting yourself be manipulated still over this stuff.

+1000

[Gypsy]

I don't know the whole story, but I would sell the board.

Look, he didn't want the board long enough to have it shipped from Washington to Canada or to England.

He doesn't want the board bad enough. Sell it, get some of your money back, and call it a day. One less thing to worry about -- and one less thing to keep you connected to him.

[Jen12]

You don't owe him anything. If you can sell the stuff, sell it. If you have a place that buys and sells used sporting equipment, that might be easier than dealing with eBay on such a large item.

[badger]

thanks everyone. I see all your points, and I know what I want to do (just sell the board AND the bindings as well as some of the fishing rods he had me buy that weren't cheap) and who cares if that hurts his feelings. Another part of me is more compassionate, but logistically I can't see any of this working.

I guess I can sell, and if at another time he comes to me asking for them, I'll say I sold them, and if he says anything about the bindings being his, then I'll just wire him the money. As I said, he owes me at least $1000 over the years so I don't think he'll make a stink of this. I know he'll be upset that I did it without telling him, but I think the days of owing him anything is long gone!!

[Biciclista]

exactly. YOu're right on. Too bad if he' s upset he hasn't considered your feelings for a LONG time.

[Brandi]

Do not open that door! And sell It! Get some of your money back if you can. And then that is that! Good luck.

[Jen12]

I guess I can sell, and if at another time he comes to me asking for them, I'll say I sold them, and if he says anything about the bindings being his, then I'll just wire him the money. As I said, he owes me at least $1000 over the years so I don't think he'll make a stink of this. I know he'll be upset that I did it without telling him, but I think the days of owing him anything is long gone!!

I'm not sure of the history of your situation with him, but it sounds like you want it to be over and he's hanging on. If this is the case, cut off contact with him. Don't respond to his texts, emails, calls, whatever. That way, you don't have to worry about wiring him money or explaining your position or anything. Clean breaks are hard to do, but in the long run, you may be much happier to have it all behind you.

[ny biker]

I know he'll be upset that I did it without telling him, but I think the days of owing him anything is long gone!!

There is also very little reason to be considerate of his feelings. He is not considerate of your feelings. If he was, he would leave you alone.

[redrhodie]

Is there a reason that you need to do this right now, because if it could wait, I'd let things to cool down more, like when he stops texting you weekly (or at least until after the holidays). At this point, he's still emotional, and liable to react badly if he finds out you sold "his" stuff (and I know it's not really his, I'm just playing devil's advocate).