what would you do?

[pll]

I think I'd consider the board a complete loss. I'd drop everything at his friend's house and forget about it, not engage him in any sort of conversation or negotiation. Peace is worth more than $530.

[indysteel]

I think I'd consider the board a complete loss. I'd drop everything at his friend's house and forget about it, not engage him in any sort of conversation or negotiation. Peace is worth more than $530.

Why consider the board a complete loss if she can sell it? The board is in Washington State; Badger lives in Canada and the ex lives in England. If I understand Badger's email, she was planning to drop of the possessions that she has with her in Canada at a friend of his in Canada. She can't do the same with the board, at least not without incurring an import fee, because it's in the U.S. So, she might as well have her friend in WA sell it. The board presents a slightly thornier issue in that it doesn't belong to her. I think she needs to make some effort, if only indirectly, to put the ball in his court before disposing of it in some way.

[Biciclista]

sell it. He can't bother to pay for it. If he really wanted it he would have paid for it a long time ago. if he ever gets back to this side of the world, he'll want a new one anyway. Sell it and let it go.

[Irulan]

sell it. He can't bother to pay for it. If he really wanted it he would have paid for it a long time ago. if he ever gets back to this side of the world, he'll want a new one anyway. Sell it and let it go.

I'm with this. I mean, seriously, he's thousands of miles away and hasn't made an effort for it? Plus, if you paid for it technically it's yours not his, unless you have a contract stating otherwise. I see that you are letting yourself be manipulated still over this stuff.

[ny biker]

i'm with this. I mean, seriously, he's thousands of miles away and hasn't made an effort for it? Plus, if you paid for it technically it's yours not his, unless you have a contract stating otherwise. I see that you are letting yourself be manipulated still over this stuff.

+1000

[Gypsy]

I don't know the whole story, but I would sell the board.

Look, he didn't want the board long enough to have it shipped from Washington to Canada or to England.

He doesn't want the board bad enough. Sell it, get some of your money back, and call it a day. One less thing to worry about -- and one less thing to keep you connected to him.

[Jen12]

You don't owe him anything. If you can sell the stuff, sell it. If you have a place that buys and sells used sporting equipment, that might be easier than dealing with eBay on such a large item.

[badger]

thanks everyone. I see all your points, and I know what I want to do (just sell the board AND the bindings as well as some of the fishing rods he had me buy that weren't cheap) and who cares if that hurts his feelings. Another part of me is more compassionate, but logistically I can't see any of this working.

I guess I can sell, and if at another time he comes to me asking for them, I'll say I sold them, and if he says anything about the bindings being his, then I'll just wire him the money. As I said, he owes me at least $1000 over the years so I don't think he'll make a stink of this. I know he'll be upset that I did it without telling him, but I think the days of owing him anything is long gone!!

[pll]

Why consider the board a complete loss if she can sell it? The board is in Washington State; Badger lives in Canada and the ex lives in England. If I understand Badger's email, she was planning to drop of the possessions that she has with her in Canada at a friend of his in Canada. She can't do the same with the board, at least not without incurring an import fee, because it's in the U.S. So, she might as well have her friend in WA sell it. The board presents a slightly thornier issue in that it doesn't belong to her. I think she needs to make some effort, if only indirectly, to put the ball in his court before disposing of it in some way.

I forgot the detail of the board and bindings being in Washington. <sorry Badger!> That's a headache.

I'd still resist the idea of engaging him, but, Badger, if you do, have a clear time line and options, so it is not an invitation for continued negotiation and pleading.