Food choice defensive

[Becky]

All the time, but on the opposite end of the spectrum. I have Type 1 diabetes, and the whole world thinks that my food choices are their business. IME, there's no good way to handle it. I vascilate between, "thanks for your concern, but I'm doing great" and "Who says I can't eat this?", depending on my patience level and the individual involved. It's especially irksome when the comments are founded in misunderstanding (you can't have that cookie!") or someone else's circumstances ("My cousin with diabetes eats Chinese food all the time- why don't you?").

In your situation, I think that all you can do is sow the idea that you do have lots of options for food choices, including eating out. Maybe say something like, "I know that it doesn't work for everyone, but I feel great!" with a big smile...?

((((westtexas))) I'm happy that you're feel so much better on your new diet, but I'm sorry that people are being mean about it.

[Biciclista]

YOU have to be tough. Of course it felt personal. IT WAS. but don't share your stuff with other people unless you know them to be open minded.
Over the years I have done a few different dietary things, but I mostly keep it quiet. the only thing i'm not quiet about is that i don't eat donuts!

[KnottedYet]

Also a celiacker.

Also lactose intolerant.

Also mostly paleo.

Let's go out for dinner!
I don't make gf stuff for anyone unless it's something heavy duty like brownies (Cravings Place brownie mix is awesome) because otherwise gf tastes weird to other folks. I'll bring deviled eggs or salami roll-ups or something else that never had grain in it in the first place.

If I have to explain my food choices, I say I've got celiac disease. If they don't know what celiac is, I explain it as "I get sick if I eat certain kinds of grain products." (It is not worth getting into a debate with well-meaning folks over spelt, triticale, einnkorn, etc etc etc...) Generally if I don't make a big deal out of it, neither do they. And, like you, going out to eat I can always find something, so eating out really isn't an issue.

Here's the recipe for salami roll-ups. If you are still at the casein-sensitive phase in your celiac recovery, you may want to hold off on these for another year or so. But it you are just lactose intolerant now, these are right up your alley! (though not really paleo, and certainly not healthful!)

Salami Roll-ups

package of sliced salami
cream cheese
some stinky cheese (like blue)
smoked almonds

Mix the stinky cheese and the cream cheese. Spread a thin layer over a piece of salami, covering one surface. Place one line of almonds end-to-end down the center of the salami. Roll the salami slice like a tortilla. Skewer with a toothpick.

Stuffed mushroom caps go over well at work, too. Easier to make than deviled eggs, and you can get really creative with the stuffing. Here's my basic super-fast three ingredient recipe.

Stuffed Mushroom Caps

fresh mushrooms
cream cheese
frozen cooked salad shrimp

Wash and stem mushrooms. Fill each cap with a dab of cream cheese. Rinse the shrimp with cold water to thaw them. Top each dab of cream cheese with a couple shrimps.

Any recipe you find for toppings for crackers or cute little finger foods can pretty much be made using mushrooms instead of crackers or bread rounds.

[ny biker]

Do the people at your staff meeting know why you've changed your diet? If they do, and they still carried on that way, then they're just a-holes. If they don't know, then it might help to explain it to one or two of them that you're closest to, and to include in your explanation that you're able to find something to eat in pretty much any restaurant you go to.

There will always be people who are unable to empathize with your situation and think you're weird or annoying because of your diet. Some of them won't have the good sense or manners to keep their mouths shut. Avoid them if you can. If you can't, shut them down by changing the subject. If they're really rude, just say "wow" and leave the room.

[Atlas]

I know exactly how you feel but from the most opposite food choices. I'm vegan and I never hear the end of it when I bring food. But it only becomes an issue if people know it's vegan/gf/whatever makes it 'different'. I just stopped mentioning it and people all the sudden thought everything was great. Everyone has preconceived notions about things, even food. I might mention something about it now after they've eaten it and passed their opinion based on flavor.

In your case I wouldn't make anything for them ever again, they obviously can't appreciate trying delicious new things.

[GLC1968]

Yep - I can totally relate for almost the exact same reason. I too am paleo (have been since August) and I'm loving it. LOVING it. I kind of have an additional challenge in that I'm not celiac. In fact, I had zero digestive issues (outside of heartburn) before switching, so people tend to question my motives a LOT.

I find it extremely frustrating when people honestly ask me about what I eat and why, and then they feel the need to be extremely judgmental and sanctimonious about whole grains and beans! It blows my mind that I don't judge them for eating them, what gives them the right to judge me for NOT eating them? Oy.

Luckily, my friends understand. It's the random coworker or stranger that upsets me. In those situations, I just do a lot of smiling and nodding. It's not a whole lot different from the situation where I'm on a diet and everyone else is eating birthday cake except that paleo is MUCH easier to stick to! I'm kind of used to being judged (or weird) for what I eat, so I've learned to let it roll off my shoulders pretty easily.

I'm sorry to hear about your co-workers though. That's really, really tough. And honeslty, I'm amazed that they didn't like those cupcakes! Those are from the "Make it Paleo" cookbook, right? They look incredible! I haven't tried them, but we did make the lemon poppyseed ones and they were delicious!

I'll be bringing one or two paleo pies for Thanksgiving at a friends house, so I will be curious to see what they think of them. WE love our paleo baking, but I don't know how others will feel about it. We both tried a bite of a regular brownie at Panera yesterday and we could barely tolerate it (my husband is paleo too). It was incredibly sweet!! I used to LOVE indulging in those brownies, but now I don't think I'd eat one if you paid me. I guess my tastebuds have REALLY changed.

[Aggie_Ama]

I don't try to judge others food choices. We have a co-worker with a gluten allergy, she will make gf cookies and bring them to work. I always try one. They taste different but not bad. The only time I talk to her about her food choice is if I notice something she is missing has added gf options. I went to a burger place (she said this is one that is hard because her 9 year old loves burgers) and I saw they do gf. Her son loved the place and she loved the burger. Otherwise I may just ask if I am going to lunch if they have something gf she would like.

Everyone constantly asks my husband (Cat 1 racer and a crohn's patient) about his diet. "You can eat that?" When he slims down for race season they start asking if he is sick. It does wear on him.

[Owlie]

I think you just get used to less sugar. I still cannot fathom how my mom drinks her tea with no sugar in it. (And she leaves the bag in the whole time!)

I have the opposite problem. I have eczema (badly, sometimes), and people always tell me that I should cut out dairy, wheat, and so on. Except that it has nothing to do with diet--it's almost entirely stress-related. I can go on a bike ride and it's significantly better the next day. So no, I'm not cutting anything out of my diet--the only thing it would accomplish is making me very unhappy. (I love cheese.)

Those cupcakes sound really good! (I have a friend from college who's celiac, and his mom used to supply our dorm-group with GF baked goods. You couldn't tell. I wonder what her secret was.)