Dear So and So

[Catrin]

Thank you for the kind words for my mom and me. It doesn't help that I am up here by myself (single/no partner or local family). I AM my mother's daughter in that I can get pretty wrapped up in anxiety if I allow it but am trying very hard to not go there.

My mom is a negative woman at the very best of times, she just plain gets dominated by thoughts of what dire things can happen. It is just a short leap from what CAN happen to what she thinks WILL happen. She just plain tortures herself with anxiety at the best of times.

Personally I would like to have a good talk with a few nurses who have added fodder to her anxiety flames by mentioning similar situations. It isn't their fault of course, they were trying to help her see a more positive side (at least you aren't like this person...sort of thing).

Hopefully things will start looking up a bit before the day is over...

[Biciclista]

DO talk to the nurses, Catrin. I have been doing that daily. And now that D has been diagnosed with a temporary vocal chord paralysis, i will be bothering them even more.

[indysteel]

Catrin,

It doesn't sound like an easy situation. I imagine it's very difficult to walk that delicate line with someone facing a serious illness between being postive/optimistic while not dismissing their very real and legitimate fears. I feel for the spot you're in.

[Catrin]

Catrin,

It doesn't sound like an easy situation. I imagine it's very difficult to walk that delicate line with someone facing a serious illness between being postive/optimistic while not dismissing their very real and legitimate fears. I feel for the spot you're in.

It is a hard line to walk at the best of times, but this is a situation where her worse nightmares seem to be coming to life and it is just heart breaking to watch. My sister is better at talking to her in such times because she has been around her entire life. I am the eldest daughter who won't live close by (for good reasons) and comes for visits.

Time to get back to work...

[OakLeaf]

Oh boy, Catrin, this sounds so much like my dad's situation right now, except that my mom's around. Hugs all around.

[Pax]

(((Catrin))) Well wishes and positive vibes going out to you, your mom, and family. A very difficult situation made harder by distance.

[Owlie]

((Catrin))

[Crankin]

Catrin, I am really sorry about your mom.
Call the nurses. I am sure they are used to speaking to family members.

[Crankin]

Catrin, I am really sorry about your mom.
Call the nurses. I am sure they are used to speaking to family members.

[Catrin]

DO talk to the nurses, Catrin. I have been doing that daily. And now that D has been diagnosed with a temporary vocal chord paralysis, i will be bothering them even more.

I will talk about this with my sister as I am no longer in Tennessee I didn't think about this until today but Mom said a few things to me on the phone yesterday that had me concerned.