Dear So and So

[indysteel]

Dear Mom:

I gave you a car. You transferred the title before that little thing that I asked you to wait for happened. OK - you're a brat who can't be an adult and wait. I expected that. Would it have been too hard to turn in the tags while you were at it so I could take the car off my insurance? I know you didn't have the tools and there wasn't someone handy to do it for you - but really? Are you really telling me that you don't have time to accomplish that *this year*?

Admittedly, I don't know much about your situation with your mom, but why are you helping her again? I mean, I know she's your mom, but she doesn't sound particularly grateful or gracious.

[Blueberry]

Admittedly, I don't know much about your situation with your mom, but why are you helping her again? I mean, I know she's your mom, but she doesn't sound particularly grateful or gracious.

This is the final part of the prior situation - I had just thought we would be done by now. We agreed to give her the car, Grandma wanted it fixed (which took a couple of weeks of them wanting us to find the cheapest place/trying to figure out what they wanted done - new/used compressor, etc.), it took her a month to come get it, another 2 weeks to transfer the title.....I do think (hope!) we've learned our lesson!

The really fun part is that had a loan not come through, she would have been headed for financial collapse (why my uncle co-signed for that one, I'll never know). She was not comprehending my advice about exemptions in NC (and that you can't exempt 2 cars).

[Blueberry]

((((((Catrin and Mom))))))

Feeling for all TE'ers and TE family who are in the hospital

[Catrin]

Thank you for the kind words for my mom and me. It doesn't help that I am up here by myself (single/no partner or local family). I AM my mother's daughter in that I can get pretty wrapped up in anxiety if I allow it but am trying very hard to not go there.

My mom is a negative woman at the very best of times, she just plain gets dominated by thoughts of what dire things can happen. It is just a short leap from what CAN happen to what she thinks WILL happen. She just plain tortures herself with anxiety at the best of times.

Personally I would like to have a good talk with a few nurses who have added fodder to her anxiety flames by mentioning similar situations. It isn't their fault of course, they were trying to help her see a more positive side (at least you aren't like this person...sort of thing).

Hopefully things will start looking up a bit before the day is over...

[Biciclista]

DO talk to the nurses, Catrin. I have been doing that daily. And now that D has been diagnosed with a temporary vocal chord paralysis, i will be bothering them even more.

[indysteel]

Catrin,

It doesn't sound like an easy situation. I imagine it's very difficult to walk that delicate line with someone facing a serious illness between being postive/optimistic while not dismissing their very real and legitimate fears. I feel for the spot you're in.

[Catrin]

Catrin,

It doesn't sound like an easy situation. I imagine it's very difficult to walk that delicate line with someone facing a serious illness between being postive/optimistic while not dismissing their very real and legitimate fears. I feel for the spot you're in.

It is a hard line to walk at the best of times, but this is a situation where her worse nightmares seem to be coming to life and it is just heart breaking to watch. My sister is better at talking to her in such times because she has been around her entire life. I am the eldest daughter who won't live close by (for good reasons) and comes for visits.

Time to get back to work...

[Catrin]

DO talk to the nurses, Catrin. I have been doing that daily. And now that D has been diagnosed with a temporary vocal chord paralysis, i will be bothering them even more.

I will talk about this with my sister as I am no longer in Tennessee I didn't think about this until today but Mom said a few things to me on the phone yesterday that had me concerned.