Does your bra really fit?

[Kathi]

I order from HERROOM.com in Dallas, Texas. Shipping is free over $70.00 but returns are on you.

The other company I sometimes order from is Bare Necessities.com, Edison N.J. Same deal, shipping is free but you pay for returns.
I used to order from Figleaves.com which is a UK company but with Herroom I just pay the $3.00 for shipping and have my order in 2 days.
Free shipping for both Herroom and Bare Necessities involve shipping via UPS to your location then transfering your package to USPS so it takes a good 5 days or more to get here.

When you do an exchange HERROOM ships the replacement for free via standard shipping. I usually take a refund. I do cheat and return 2 orders in the same box.

I didn't check out Bare Necessities offerings in the larger sizes but thought HERROOM's unbelievable. They had brands I've never heard of. I'm soooo jealous.

With online ordering you really need to know your size and if you know your best brand that is helpful too. Be aware that a companies bra sizes can change from year to year.

The thing I like about HERROOM is they have a customer review section and often a rep from the company chimes in and makes fitting suggestions. Also, be aware that the customer may not be buying the correct size.

Both companies have sales and closeout sections. Bare Necessities just had 25% off of everything on their site.

I find the reps. from HERROOM very helpful but I think they still use the old standard measuring system of adding +4" to your back size. I guess it depends on how you like your fit if this works for you.

Crankin, I'd give anything to be able to go to a LLS and have a good selection in my size but I'm afraid I'd have to go to the UK to find one!

Muirenn, it's very common to be different sizes. I am too, it's more noticeable to me but it isn't obvious in this new bra.

The best recommendation I've read is to try a combination of different band and cup sizes and that not all fitters know how to do a good fitting. They are often trained by a bra company and will try to sell you their brand whether it fits or not. that's why one fitter tells you one size and another will be completely different.

If anyone knows of any other online companies please let me know.

[goldfinch]

After I had lost a considerable amount of weight I went through the difficulty of finding the right bra. I figured that I was about a 34ddd. I found www.herroom.com and ordered several different styles of bras and several different sizes. I discovered through trial and error that yes, the plus four inches is misleading for larger cup sizes. I ended up a 34FF and now with some more pounds down, a 34F. Technically though (based on Kathy's article) I might do better with a smaller band size and might go up a cup and down a size next time I order. Herroom gave me good advice on underwire, which I had never been able to use as a short person. I bought balcony bras for short torsos and for the first time can wear an underwire without it poking into my armpits. It is nice because it gives you the lift.

[nscrbug]

What a timely topic this happens to be. I too, just went bra shopping today. I had 2 fittings done (Nordstrom's and Victoria's Secret) several years back, and both places put me in a 36C. Went to try on a bunch of 36C's today and quickly discovered that I must have put on some weight since the last time I bought new bras. I had to go up into a 38C in most of the brands. The 36's all felt too tight in the band...even on the loosest hook. However, some of the 38's felt a tad bit loose (on the middle hook). Overall, I like the "coverage" I get with the 38 vs 36...especially in that troublesome area in the back where I tend to "bulge" out all over the place. I specifically looked for bras that had a "back smoothing" effect. I ended up with 2 bras from Warners, and 2 from Ambrielle (JcPenny brand). When I got home, I went through my "bra" drawer and ended up tossing out 13 old, stretched-out, raggedy bras...along with 5 old, raggedy sports bras. I feel liberated, ridding myself of these ill-fitting, over-worn, junky bras.

Linda

[Becky]

Very interesting reading. I do believe that I'm more confused than ever (!), but it's given me something to think about...

I need to find a LLS...

[ny biker]

The last time I was measured, the woman at Nordstrom's insisted I'm a 34B and the woman at VS said I was a 36A. But I find both sizes to be too tight. They might seem okay in the fitting room but after about an hour I can't stand them anymore. The woman at Nordstrom's refused to believe that I could not wear a 34 band. The woman at VS was much more understanding, but she didn't have any 38s in small cup sizes (I would need AA and they don't even have A).

Also I can't wear underwires because they dig into the front of my rib cage. Very painful.

I went to a local specialty store and bought a bunch of "spa bras" which are 1-size-fits-most with wide bands and cookies to which provide a little more volume and hide the headlights. They're pretty comfortable, though I get tired of having to position the cookies every time I put them on. They don't provide any support so they wouldn't work for someone who needs a larger cup size.

I also have a some Barely There unpadded bras. They used to be available in 38A, and I have several of those, but a couple of years ago they "improved their sizing" by switching to S-M-L. The large is a little snug in the band but they're cheap and come in fun colors so I bought a bunch a few months ago. They stretch enough to be comfortable on most days. I use Bezi bra discs with them when I'm wearing a t-shirt or thin sweater.

BTW the woman working at the specialty store was great. She understood that the tape measure only gives you a starting point, and somehow she managed to make me feel good about my figure. Whereas the woman at Nordstrom's had me in tears, feeling like a freak.

Also, when I was trying on 36As in VS, it was interesting that some styles came closer to fitting than others. I learned from the saleswoman that the front of the band (between the cups) is supposed to rest against your skin, but one style left a gap which indicated it didn't fit right.

[goldfinch]

One other thing to mention is something I learned from herroom---that when a band feels tight it might not be the band, but the cup size. Too many women are in too small a cup size, maybe in part because the standard department store sizes just don't go up very high, often a D or a DD.

[barrelgal]

If you are lucky enough to live in a city that has one, I can't reccomend intimacy highly enough. They reccomended the smaller band bigger cup to me and all their bras feel soooooo good. Also buy my sports bras from there. They also will alter you bras for life for free. I had band stretch out and the shortened it for me 2 years after buying for free! Great company to do business with IMO.

Edited to add: I think their full name is intimacy bra fit stylists

[Wasp]

Check out figleaves.com
They have a USA site as well as a UK site. I've ordered many bra's from both websites, and the service is excellent. They have a big selection and cover a wide range of sizes. Elomi is my personal favorite brand. It keeps the girls high, locked and loaded

[meganm]

I used to avoid wearing a bra at all costs when I was in college. The discomfort of the bra was less important than the discomfort of bouncing, so I just dealt with it. There were many days that my bra ended up in my purse or backpack because I couldn't deal with it after a few hours.

All of that changed after I got a fitting and realized I had no idea what I was doing when I went shopping. After getting fitted and realizing that it is possible to find a bra that doesn't make me want to rip it off after an hour, the engineer in me took over and I decided that I wasn't going to settle for discomfort. If my girls are going to be strapped down for 12-14 hours/day in a harness of wires, straps, and hooks, that harness needs to do its job and not annoy me.

I get fitted whenever I feel like I'm not getting support, and I'm now willing to spend a lot of time trying them on. I even have a bra with for days around my period when things are a little more bloated. While I'm a fashionista in all other aspects of my life, when it comes to bras, I'm a functionista. No lace, bows, or decorations for me.

I won't go as far as to say that I'm comfortable or that I like wearing them, I will say that my time spent getting fitted frequently and trying them on has resulted in me being able to tolerate it without constant annoyance.

[Kathi]

Here's a good explanation of how to find your band size. http://www.tomima.com/2011/01/07/fin...bra-band-size/
This is from the HerRoom website, there is lots of information there on bra fitting. The suggestion here is once you find your band size to go up or down a cup size but if your wearing the wrong sized cup going up or down 1 size won't work.

When you look at a bra on the HerRoom site there is a chart that interprets the measurements for you. This is for women D cup and above. For example, I measure 26" around my back and with a good fitting bra 35" across my bust. According to the old standards of bra measurement I add 4" which makes my band size 30". There is a 5" difference between my band size and my cup size putting me in a 30D bra. If I don't add the 4" to the band I'm now a 26" band with a 9" difference. According to the chart I'm now an FF-H cup depending on the brand. This assumes I could find a 26" band which also makes determining my cup size tricky. I used a 28 band when I ordered and the G cup worked.

Thinking I was the 30D or DD my bras stretched out too fast, they rode up the back, my boobs spilled out the sides, the underwires were uncomfortable. Because the band and cups were too small I was getting no support from the band and there was no place for my boobs to go. Besides being uncomfortable the bras gave me a teardrop shape making me look like my grandmother.

Also, my 30D's fit very nicely in between my boobs but they were squishing me together. I thought I was shallow on top and heavy on the bottom but I'm finding this isn't true. If I ran or walked fast I bounced on the top.

The sad thing is I'm in my 60's and have never had a properly fitting bra. There is a web site that shows good and bad fitting bras. If I can find it again I'll post it.

[skhill]

Bras are one thing I really don't like buying on-line, with how many I have to try on to find one that fits. But it's tough to find stores that stock much in my size-- 32A or B (Bs are often too big, As too small). And what's worse is that most everything that small is a padded, uplifting, underwired monstrosity. I see no reason to try to make my bust look bigger, I like being small...

It was so much easier when I was a 38DD....

Crankin, I'll have to try out those Calvin Kleins, thanks for mentioning them.

[Kathi]

I totally understand reluctance to order online. There's no one to help you figure out correct fit, it's frustrating when the bra doesn't fit and return shipment adds to the cost although not paying state taxes balances that out.

However, there is a better selection of bras to try than what you find in the local stores. At least, there is for me.

Since I had no correctly fitting bra to compare to I have bought lots of bras over the years that I should have returned but didn't because I had no idea I could get a better fit. I was using an online calculator as my guide. Even if I had gone to stores I would have looked for the wrong size or the clerk would try to put me in a 32c bra that "runs small".

There's lots of good online information (some good videos) on how a bra should fit. Most of it is coming out of the UK. HerRoom is also a good source.

I understand your frustration with the styles of bras. I'm limited to balcony and plunge bras. They are beautiful colors and prints, very few white or beige, which I need sometimes. I have little use for plunge bras as I rarely wear a low cut top. Maybe I'm missing the point about plunge bras.

The other thing I don't get is why "petite" bras start at a 32 band and are only A,B,C cups. I'm as petite as they come and I also need the features of petite bras but I happen to be full busted or "curvy" as the UK girls put it. It seems there is an entire market the bra industry is missing out on.

[GLC1968]

Bras are one thing I really don't like buying on-line, with how many I have to try on to find one that fits. But it's tough to find stores that stock much in my size-- 32A or B (Bs are often too big, As too small). And what's worse is that most everything that small is a padded, uplifting, underwired monstrosity. I see no reason to try to make my bust look bigger, I like being small...

It was so much easier when I was a 38DD....

Crankin, I'll have to try out those Calvin Kleins, thanks for mentioning them.

This is my problem as well. So far, I'm making due with a couple of old, stretched out bras for everyday wear because I'm dreading shopping for new ones (32A or 32almostB depending on which breast you measure!). It was so easy when I was heavier and a 36C fit because those were super easy to find and usually, with enough persistence, I could find a style that worked in that size.

Now? Besides still having a cup size difference between breasts, my biggest problem is now running bras. When you are moving rhythmically for 1.5 hours and your breasts and ribcage have shrunk out of your old sports bras...chafing happens in all kinds of bad places. Ugh.

[lph]

For anyone wearing an AA, A, or B cup. May I suggest.

Hey those are nice.

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