Bullying - what would you do?

[Roadtrip]

Sounds like you've been given some really good advice. Bring in the principle and if he dosnt respond, then you can always take it up with the school board. When I was little we had a first grade teacher who was very physically abusive to children under her care. She was like a dictator and one step out of line mention you got slapped or your hair pulled, etc. I had very long hair most of my life and got my hair pulled and head whipped back because i asked to use the restroom outside of "approved" timeslots. Another student to had been burned in a house fire had scarring all over his body and he was slapped HARD on the back for something similar, but my point is parents had to rise up as this teacher had friends at the school, but not on the school board and she finally was removed.

As to the bullies themselves, I was bullied in school something fierce, as I was a chunky kid and I guess more emotional or wore emotions on my sleeve. I got tired of it and finally snapped. I found myself on top of this kid and pounding his head into the blacktop and had to be pulled off him before I really hurt him. After that tho I wasn't bullied... Imagine that

Shannon

[goldfinch]

You are good Roxy, supporting your daughter as she helps her friend. I was picked on as a teen for not being "saved," for being brainy, and for being unattractive. Nobody helped me and I never told my parents. Kids tend to be protective of their parents. It changed me for life.

[channlluv]

I was picked on, too, and grew up in a really abusive household, so I've made sure that she's had plenty of parental support (my husband and I both) and that she's had martial arts since she was seven. I want her to have the self-confidence to stand up for herself. That she's taking a stand for her friends is just a bonus. I'm really proud of her. A lot of kids would just ignore it or join in.

I honestly think she's inspired to do so because of the books by Tamora Pierce that I recommended on the Women in Sci-Fi/Fantasy thread. We got them on Audible.com, so we've got this really talented voice actress reading them to us as we drive back and forth to school, books about a young girl named Keladry of Mendalin who grows up to be a lady knight. She practices martial arts, too, stands up to bullies herself (boys who don't believe girls should be knights) and defends smaller kids from bullies, and grows up to be a military hero who defeats an evil mage who has been creating these evil monsters out of kidnapped and murdered children's spirits...it's a powerful series. It's called Protector of the Small.

I've been reading this book, Dear Bully, an anthology of personal essays by 70 authors, and I donated my copy to her school's vice principal today. It's powerful enough that I'd buy a copy for each advisory class to use in their Second Step sessions, if the administration likes it.

We'll see.

Roxy

[PamNY]

Roxy, you sound like such a good mom.

[channlluv]

Thanks, Pam. I only get one chance to get this right and I want to do a good job. She is literally my miracle child. I've been accused of being too involved lots of times, but you know what, she's a great kid. Confident, brave, articulate. I've had complete strangers tell me after they've met her how impressive a speaker she is, to have been in a group of adults and to have answered questions and expressed herself without going all shy or cocky. She's awesome.

So thank you. Really.

Roxy

[jyyanks]

Thanks, Pam. I only get one chance to get this right and I want to do a good job. She is literally my miracle child. I've been accused of being too involved lots of times, but you know what, she's a great kid. Confident, brave, articulate. I've had complete strangers tell me after they've met her how impressive a speaker she is, to have been in a group of adults and to have answered questions and expressed herself without going all shy or cocky. She's awesome.

So thank you. Really.

Roxy

She must have one helluva mom to be so confidant, brave, and poised. Great job! I hope the principal does something about the bullying especially since your daughter's friend is already going through some tough times.

[schwartzdeborah]

oh my! this is one hell of a kid. you have to start working on a resolution for this before it gets worse. most kids that are bullied has tendencies of getting traumas on their childhood. you might want to start arranging a discussion with your kid's teacher and the parents of the daughter. that's one way to get an idea what causes the kids to bully other kid around.