Thanks, everyone. I asked my daughter how her day went and she said fine. I asked how the situation with lead bully was going and she said okay as far as she knew, that they hadn't acted against her friend, so she didn't see bully girl sneer at her.

I told my husband what happened, what I saw, and he said it didn't matter since DD didn't see it -- it didn't affect her at all. He also warned me about being a helicopter mom, that she needs to be able to deal with these kinds of situations without us.

I'll mention it to the principal when I see him next. I'm also talking with the vice principal about the program she's running dealing with bullying -- I'm recommending some books to her -- and ask what the policy is and how it's enforced.

I'm not really worried about my own daughter. I am concerned for her friend -- the poor girl's had a really hard couple of years (mom has breast cancer, father left the family, etc.) and I'm really proud of my daughter for standing by her friend.

I don't work at the school anymore. Budget cuts lead me to quit at the end of the school year last year.

Roxy