What would you do differently?

[Irulan]

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Would I change anything?!?!

Sometimes it takes knowing we went through crap to get us into recovery.


<generic "you" lest someone think I am singling anyone out>

I think the better question is, have you moved forward and healed? Or do you still identify yourself by what happened to you?

You CAN'T change what happened to you. But you can change your attitude and approach to life. You can look at what happened and decide to do things differently. You can break the cycle. You can toss out the tools your parents gave you and rebuild a better tool kit.

[indysteel]

Sometimes it takes knowing we went through crap to get us into recovery.


<generic "you" lest someone think I am singling anyone out>

I think the better question is, have you moved forward and healed? Or do you still identify yourself by what happened to you?

You CAN'T change what happened to you. But you can change your attitude and approach to life. You can look at what happened and decide to do things differently. You can break the cycle. You can toss out the tools your parents gave you and rebuild a better tool kit.

Yep. It takes work, but it's well worth it. I wish I had a different family of origin, but I'm quite happy with my family of choice. And me. I like me.

[Roadtrip]

And me. I like me.

Amen sister!!

[Crankin]

I am very happy for my family origin. Not perfect, but, really good models for being parents. My mom should have been born in my generation...
And I really wouldn't change anything about my life now. The things I mentioned earlier, well, it's all in hindsight. I made a stupid decision at age 18, but I knew it was a stupid decision when I was doing it. It was so long ago, it doesn't matter. I've reconnected with the person who I dumped, and we both ended up having great lives. Funny, he was the perfect athlete, popular, brilliant. I was not the athlete, was smart, but nothing special in the place I grew up, and while I was popular, I didn't have guys pining over me.
Guess who's the athlete now and who has had back surgery and needs a knee replacement, while getting vicarious thrills by following Boston sports teams from afar?
I don't regret my teaching career. I wish I had had the guts to do something a little different, but I became a very good educator and it gave me strength. The time was right to switch, though and do what I was told not to do when I was a sophomore in college, because "you'll never get a job."

[Zippinalong]

Unfortunately there are so many things I would change. My life path has been difficult and frustrating. If I could start over again I would.

[solobiker]

I thought about this for a little while and came up with the conclusion that I would not change anything. Yes...I did go through some rough times and have made poor decisions in the past and I am sure I will make more. However, it has made me who I am today and I would not change that. Life is a growing and learning experience. I feel like if I don't learn something new daily then I am cheating myself out of new expereinces even if they are not the most enjoyable. You never know unless you try. IMHO

[bluebug32]

I would have started biking much sooner! Imagine how fast I could be by now...