Quote Originally Posted by Owlie View Post
“The reality is—and this is my experience coaching lots of people—is that if a guy wants to go out for a three hour ride, he doesn't say, 'Will you want the kids for 3 hrs?' Whereas when a woman wants to spend that kind of time on a bike, there's a negotiation that goes on with their partner or whoever who can watch the kid. So there's always that. And then there's a limited amount of time that they have—at least as far as elite cycling goes—an limited amount of time to make or break before they decide whether they're going to move on to something else.”
SO true! My DH isn't near as bad as other husbands I know, but it's still the mentality that I need to ask him to "babysit" his own children! Even though we both work full-time jobs, I'm still the "caretaker" and he's the "Bread-winner". He runs a family business and often works 12 hour days, sometimes 6 days a week. If I want to go for a bike ride, I either take the kids with me or schedule a babysitter. It is a lot to coordinate and you have to be dedicated. There's a lot of sacrifice and compromise involved.

I have a friend and they've worked it out so that they each get two evenings a week:M & W, T & R. They take turns. On Sundays he goes for a ride in the AM and she in the PM. It's worked out well for them.