Quote Originally Posted by KnottedYet View Post
Yup, I'm an alto (I sing 2nd alto).
Me too...and 1st tenor. I'm Scandinavian, as well (first name Kirsten, maiden name ended in son). But I would kill for broader shoulders (since I have big boobs and the shoulders might help make me look more balanced AND hold up bra straps better) and some angles to my face. I am TOO soft and have no nice defined cheekbones or chin.

We can't win.

From the way you describe your dress, the only way these people could be thinking you're a guy is if they are completely oblivious and lacking in the ability to read social cues. That says far more about them than it does about you.