How did you meet your SO?

[ultraviolet]

At work. He was a product manager at a company I was doing a lot of consulting work for. I was facilitating a review of some outside agency work for his product group. We were in a late evening review session, he made a sarcastic remark under his breath about something the creative director was trying to do, and our eyes met over a stifled laugh.

We went out for a drink a few weeks later. That was three and a half years ago.

[margo49]

In a hiking hut in a National Park...he just walked in. Talked a bit that night, set off together in the morning (to the next hut up the valley) , talked a lot that night and the next day back down the valley as the snow fell and a Very Nice Night in another hut. Next night in the little dot-on-the-map town then went our separate ways for a fortnight after which he phoned and came to stay at the friend's place I was at. The end of that week decided to "give it a try"...26 years, 3 countries, 3 children, 2 cats and 3 dogs later ...still going strong despite initial racism and bigotry not to mention worry from both sides.
The funniest thing is we are now held up as an example of a "model family"...societal tidal changes have washed us in from the reef of radicaliam onto the (almost deserted) beach of "normality" (one man one woman "good" kids and pets).
Sometimes I am so embarrassed! And so sad for all those who swallowed the heterosexist Hollywood US Cutural Imperialist myth hook line and sinker and had it explode on them. And I am the one getting to live something I don't want to support really.
Not married yet though!!!!

[limewave]

At a bar.

Which is strange on all sorts of levels.
1) Neither one of us drinks. Or we didn't at the time. We were dragged there by friends.
2) My brother met his wife at the same bar 1 year earlier.
3) DH's parents met at the SAME bar 38 years earlier!
(We do have more than 1 bar around here)

We hadn't met before that, but I had seen him around. He was a roadie and his route went past my parents house. I would see him with one of his friends out riding all the time. I took notice every time I saw them. I kept thinking that looked like a lot of fun!

[indysteel]

At a bar.

Which is strange on all sorts of levels.
1) Neither one of us drinks. Or we didn't at the time. We were dragged there by friends.
2) My brother met his wife at the same bar 1 year earlier.
3) DH's parents met at the SAME bar 38 years earlier!
(We do have more than 1 bar around here)

We hadn't met before that, but I had seen him around. He was a roadie and his route went past my parents house. I would see him with one of his friends out riding all the time. I took notice every time I saw them. I kept thinking that looked like a lot of fun!

What crazy coincidences! Maybe our OP should go to that bar!

[blue_angel]

At a bar.

Which is strange on all sorts of levels.
1) Neither one of us drinks. Or we didn't at the time. We were dragged there by friends.
2) My brother met his wife at the same bar 1 year earlier.
3) DH's parents met at the SAME bar 38 years earlier!
(We do have more than 1 bar around here)

We hadn't met before that, but I had seen him around. He was a roadie and his route went past my parents house. I would see him with one of his friends out riding all the time. I took notice every time I saw them. I kept thinking that looked like a lot of fun!

What bar?

[roadie gal]

I wrote a Xena fan fiction story and posted it to one of the fanfic sites. I got a lot of replies saying they liked the story, and I ended up corresponding regularly with a few people. One of them ending up becoming my SO. We're going on 12 years now.

BTW, we met when I was 40 and she was 29. This is the first time that I've been the older person in a relationship.

[ehirsch83]

We had mutual friends and had been attending the same races, but never spoke. We ended up being friends on facebook( how all local racers do somehow, even though we had never said more then hi to each other). We both had a mutual friend and she was trying to move to Colorado and he was from there and I had lived there for 3 years- I actually think she told him to friend me b/c she wanted us all to move together(lol, which didn't happen!)

Anyways, he and I talked a few times and then he would post photos of his yummy food- one day it was buckwheat pancakes with dark chocolate chips and goji berries, among other things and I said I wanted to try them!

He said come over and I'll make them(granted he lived a little over 3 hours away). A few weeks later, I took a leap and made the drive( on the premise that I was going to sleep in the other room and go with him to a race 1.5 hours north of him- I as recovering from my fractured hip and elbow and wanted to watch friends race).

After that weekend we discovered we had a ton in common and we started dating- he spent 2 weeks racing in the Dominican and then a month later he went to france for 3 months to race.. now a year and a 3/4s later we live together and have 2 dogs. (I got a job in Orlando and made the move after a little over a year of long distance dating). He took me to go look at rings the other weekend now we are just saving up some $$.

(he isn't the longest relationship I have had to date, but he is definitely the one I see myself with for a long time)

[Jolt]

Interesting to read how people have met their partners. As for me, I haven't met him yet so I am just doing the things I like to do and being open to whatever might happen in the course of doing that. I enjoy being single (it does have its advantages!) but it would be great to find a guy to share my life with and have a family. However, I am not about to settle--there are certain things we would have to have in common and it has to be someone I can happily see spending the rest of my life with . And if it doesn't happen, I will make the most of the opportunities I have as a single person to help others and enjoy life. No sense in sitting around and waiting, as someone said earlier, or in feeling bummed out about one's situation.

[spokewench]

At a bar.

Which is strange on all sorts of levels.
1) Neither one of us drinks. Or we didn't at the time. We were dragged there by friends.
2) My brother met his wife at the same bar 1 year earlier.
3) DH's parents met at the SAME bar 38 years earlier!
(We do have more than 1 bar around here)

We hadn't met before that, but I had seen him around. He was a roadie and his route went past my parents house. I would see him with one of his friends out riding all the time. I took notice every time I saw them. I kept thinking that looked like a lot of fun!

I met my hubby at a bar - but we were both drinkers. Actually, he was working in a band (moonlighting froms his regular day job) playing drums and I was moonlighting from my regular day job as a cocktail waitress to make extra money since I had just bought a new truck. The bar was kind of a neighborhood type bar - down the street from where I kept my horse.

The place does not exist anymore. It was on leased park property and they finally tore it down. It was the Redwood Inn in the Oakland Hills, California.