Quote Originally Posted by grey View Post
We had a guy like this in our little group. He always knew more than everyone else and in his mind was always right, you were an idiot to disagree with him because of course, you lacked his intelligence to begin!

I'd finally had it a few years ago, I was riding hubby's mountain bike yet because I hadn't found a bike I liked and honestly, it's hard for us to spend money. We are savers, so as long as I was unsure of what to get, it made sense to still ride the mtb.

One day he says (really loud) "the reason you don't have a bike is because you don't have any money!" and proceeds to snicker. I was speechless for a moment, who would ever say something like that? If it had been true, I can't imagine the sting it would have caused.

People who make comments about money get under my skin. I have a friend who has a BFF who throws money around like it's confetti. The BFF's husband is the same way, although I think for him it's more of a status thing. He wants to look like he's got it all. Like you, I'm a saver, and I made a conscious decision a couple of years ago to walk away from a career I hated to go into one that is much less lucrative. I made many sacrifices to do this, but rarely comment on it because a lot of things I gave up were just extras that I don't need or miss. Anyway, a group of us were on a girl's weekend and one night at a bar, I didn't feel like drinking. If I drink past a certain point, it just keeps me awake at night and I hadn't slept the previous two nights. A week later this girl verbally attacked me about how if I couldn't afford to drink I shouldn't have come on the weekend at all, and it was awkward for her that I wasn't drinking that night.

Like you, my reasons for my choices had nothing to do with money, and she was way, WAY out of line for making such a classless and nasty comment. This was over a year ago, and I never did figure out what she was really upset about.

There are people who just don't think before they speak. I think instead of feeling sorry for them, we should feel badly for them.