I used to be in the position of power over a number of coworkers who were like me highly educated, ambitious and competitive. Of about 15 people there were two absolute jerks. Let's call them Joe and Stephanie. (It is fun to use their real names). I found myself frustrated by Stephanie's behavior more often than at the Joe's equally bad behavior. On reflection I decided that I had a tendency to have higher expectations of women then of men. Women are my team after all!