Generally speaking my style of responding to RVSP has been:

*If it was a personal invitation from someone I knew face-to-face or virtually through several months of dialogue with person online, I would RVSP several days well before the event or sooner.

*If it was a bigger event of which I'm just a paying member (association, large cycling group, etc.), I don't RVSP. I'm just another face and hosts don't know me. It does help to embed an RVSP button or email address for person to respond.

*If it was an event where I was expected to bring some food or gift as a guest, I would respond either way to RVSP.

*When I come as a guest I usually come on start time or within the lst hr. if it's a much bigger group. I always feel abit wierd coming this "early" since alot of people are fashionably late.


Thanking hosts: If it's an informal party, I thank the guest right there at the event, for whatever they brought. If guests bring a gift for me, I usually have cooked a lots of food for them. Afterwards, I would send/email them photos of event, with them in it....since I enjoy recording such events. In lieu (of postal letters which I seldom do now), I do send them a longer email..

Did I tick off anyone here?

As a host, I appreciate anyone telling me that they'll be late and provide me an approximate time when they'll be there. If there will be no food left , I tell them that..in advance.